Counselling is not simply teaching a set of ‘coping mechanisms’ to help you get through the day. These mechanisms can be an important aid for people in mental distress, but the real aim of my work is healing. Working together, we engage in a process to suit you as a unique individual.
Firstly, we establish a confidential, safe ‘space’ for us to explore what is going on in your life, how you are managing, and what you would like to change. This safe space is the ‘therapeutic relationship’, and it is a relationship in which you can focus entirely on yourself, without having to worry about whether I am ok with what you are telling me or if what you say will have repercussions on your family or friends.
In our sessions, we look at what is going on in your life now, and we might also look back at your past. You are free to express your thoughts and feelings, whatever they may be, within the safety of our therapeutic relationship. In the course of our sessions we will arrive at insights in to the origins of your feelings and behaviours. This self-awareness is the key to making positive changes in your life.
There is no set number of sessions for this sort of therapy. Everything is adapted to your individual needs and situation. Some people may require eight or so sessions, others may require many more. It all depends on the complexity of the issues you are facing.